By now, we’ve all seen the headlines (and yes, the memes), and I had to jump in. A CEO and their HR leader were caught snuggling at a Coldplay concert, and HR professionals everywhere collectively gasped. This is HR 101 stuff, people!
So let’s talk about it: When is dating at work actually OK? And when is it a one-way ticket to a PR disaster (or worse)?
The Problem with Executive Romances
Here’s the deal: Relationships between executives—especially when HR is involved—are a big ol’ risk. Why?
- HR’s role is to protect the company. If your HR leader is dating the CEO, who exactly is investigating complaints about the CEO? Spoiler: no one.
- It creates conflicts of interest. Raises, promotions, and hiring decisions suddenly look questionable—even when they’re not. People start asking, “Did they earn it? Or did they date it?”
- Public perception matters. Even if everything’s perfectly innocent, it doesn’t look that way when you’re spotted snuggling during “Fix You.”
In short: Executive-level romances are rarely worth it, and when HR’s involved, it’s practically begging for trouble.
Workplace Dating in General: When It’s OK (And When It’s Absolutely Not)
While I don’t recommend it, for the rest, dating at work can sometimes work—if you’re smart and transparent about it.
- Peer-to-peer relationships? Generally fine. Just follow your company’s disclosure policy.
- Manager dating a direct report? Nope. No way. No how. Don’t even think about it.
- Secrecy? Always a bad idea. Transparency with HR (the non-romantic kind) will save you from bigger headaches down the road.
Here’s my golden rule: Don’t fish off the company dock. It rarely ends well, no matter your role.
Professional Takeaway: Avoid Your Own Coldplay Headline
Whether you’re the CEO, the HR leader, or just someone who thinks they’ve found “The One” by the copier, remember:
If your relationship could create real (or perceived) bias, complicate your role, or just make Monday mornings awkward—maybe swipe right somewhere else.
If you’re unsure, check your company’s policy… preferably before you’re spotted at Coldplay.
And if you’re a manager? It’s a hard stop. Date outside the org. Go to Coldplay with a stranger. Buy a dog. Just don’t date your direct report.